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Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

montywheeler — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 23:03:37 -0000

When my first son was born it was the happiest day of my life. I felt a since of pride that I never knew i could feel. FIghting to make a good life for my wife and two boys is what has given me the will to go back to school and better my educationl. So i can provide them not only with a stable home but not have to work a job 100 hours a week to give them what they need most thats a husband and father

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Tyler — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 12:12:14 -0000

I have found that if you can express your joy and happiness to her then more than likely she'll be able to see the joy in the situation. Yes, you have every right to be worried and puzzled - it happens to everyone whether or not they tried to get pregnant for 2 years or got pregnant accidentally.

You may not realize it yet but the fact that your worried and scared is a good sign that you're already embracing the role of father. I'd be more worried about you if you didn't care at all.

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Scott — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 08:47:39 -0000

Good luck, I know having a baby is very stressful, and I can't imagine what it feels like to be in your shoes. But I will say, Tyler is right on the money with this post when he says kids show you just what true love is. In the long run, the hard times are worth it.

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Boricua0383 — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 00:24:06 -0000

Well...I hope I really become a better man. I'm 26 and jobless at the moment. My girlfriend told me a few hours ago that's she is pregnant. We're shocked and puzzled. We did our best to make sure this didn't happen. I've never felt so lost before. I have to confess I'm petrified and very concerned for my girlfriend who seems depressed and stressing out. But... at the same time i feel a bit excited about the whole thing. I hope I can adjust. Thanks for writing this article. it relaxed me a bit.

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Tyler — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 19:33:50 -0000

I guess I missed the question in your first comment. I thought your comment was out of line and seeing that you've never read this blog before you failed to realize that my wife and I can't breed like "bloody rabbits". It took us almost 2 years to successfully get pregnant and for both pregnancies we had to get help from a fertility doctor.

I'm sorry your wife can't get pregnant - I truly am. I have a great friend who is in the same position as you so I know what you're going through. She had two boys during her 1st pregnancy but has had at 3 misscarriages with my friend.

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Born Loser — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 18:36:41 -0000

Not a useless comment at all....just a simple question. My wife is unable to have children and as I am 42, I'd like to become a father too before I'm dead and gone. People like yourself who can breed like bloody rabbits don't realize some aren't that fortunate. Enjoy your sodding Father's Day.

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Tyler — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 10:37:16 -0000

Thanks for the useless comment. I'd prefer you grow a pair of your own and then come back to leave me a meaningful and useful comment.

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Born Loser — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 22:40:20 -0000

Oh, bravo! Bully for you, why don't you just run out and have your c++k bronzed for all the world to share. Better still, why not let me have a go with your wife, seeing as how mine is barren as the bloody Sahara. Once again, bully for you, braggart.

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Tyler Wainright — Tue, 19 May 2009 23:02:31 -0000

Elvis: I'm working on a review of the new Dad Labs book simply called "Dadlabs Guide To Fatherhood" and I'd highly recommend it. It's too the point but informative enough so you'll know what's going on during pregnancy and the first year of birth. Go get it today!

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Elvis — Tue, 19 May 2009 18:07:12 -0000

I really cant wait for the new guy or gal , to bring some sunshine into my live, I hear they are a buddle of joy, but ja will to that.

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Elvis — Tue, 19 May 2009 18:04:53 -0000

I am going to be a first time dad in December of this year, and eish, its scary but exciting in the same. I wanna be the best dad to my child but I realy dont know how. Should I just do it or are there materials to assist me? whem you go to a library the books on the subject are so many but you dont know where to start. but I need short, tactfull and good materials, not looooooong books.

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Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Jeff — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 04:44:25 -0000

I agree with you 100%.... since the birth of my first 2 weeks ago. I feel like there is a greater purpose in life. And everytime I look at him I get this unique joy in my heart.

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Tyler — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 21:44:28 -0000

Thank you all for your comments. It's great to hear your thoughts and experiences. This wasn't an easy article to write and I'm glad you all enjoyed it.

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Child Safety Service — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 13:41:35 -0000

Hey Tyler. Congratulations. Your site is wonderful and I will bookmark it and check back frequently.

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Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Ben Murphy, TheFatherLife.com — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:04:32 -0000

Really great post, Tyler! Well written and so true; congrats on the new addition! -Ben

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Mike — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 17:17:18 -0000

Great post. I definitely became a better man when my son was born a year and a half ago. He's taught me to think more about others, to be more responsible, and to make time for fun. I think I was a good person before I became a good dad, but I know I'm a much better man now.

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Kevin T. — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 16:22:23 -0000

Another great post, Tyler. For me, the last five-and-a-half months have been the most rewarding time in my 45 years. Every time I look at my little girl's eyes, I get excited about the times ahead as she grows and learns and experiences the world. Yeah, fatherhood changes you all right. The diapers and the feedings put you in the present, and imagining all the possibilities make you yearn for the future.

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Kim — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 15:59:54 -0000

From the wife point of view, I can say that I have slowly watched my husband evolve over the past three years and it has indeed made him a better man. It may seem like such a simple statement, but watching him be a father takes my breath away sometimes..

Great post.. :)

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Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

DorothyL — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 09:01:50 -0000

What a very warm and inspiring blog topic.
It is so nice to see that men are not afraid to show their love for parenting.
I am intrigued with your choice of picture for this post...it definitely speaks louder than words.
Good luck on your life as a father and family man!
www.womensselfesteem.com

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DC Urban Dad — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:57:30 -0000

Great post Tyler and excellent stories. What has been the wildest for me is the feeling I get when I now see my wife. I have always been close to her, but now we share something that is beyond a wedding ring and a ceremony. It really is hard to put words around it.

Thinking of you and your family this week. Best of luck.

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Ben Martin, THE FATHER LIFE — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 09:57:42 -0000

This is an excellent post, Tyler. Just great. Timeless truth, well articulated.

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Elliott - 21st Century Dad — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 23:06:34 -0000

It's such a profound feeling, that everything else seems to pale in comparison. Maybe you will understand true love without children, but you will definitely understand it when you have children.

I tell my daughter that she is my "truest of true loves."

I don't miss single life or even the childless couple lifestyle. Being a dad is the best.

Elliott - 21st Century Dads last blog post..Random Thoughts and Link Roundup - Busy Dads Edition

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Matt Jaworski — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 23:04:11 -0000

Strong men need balance in their lives. I think where most men struggle is with the definition of balance and how much is needed to stay strong. We all need our times with friends or by ourselves, but you can’t hang out with the family for 8 hours on a Saturday and expect to be able belly up at the bar for 8 hours that evening. The reality of fatherhood is that a great deal of your time is needed to nurture and protect your family. From there you’ll learn what your priorities are and be able to determine how you to work them into your so-called free time.

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Tom — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 13:18:02 -0000

Excellent. Simply excellent. You are absolutely correct. I've often said from my own experience that becoming a father is the next step in a man's evolution from childhood, a critical and necessary path to real growth as a man.

Kids definitely force you to become selfless, as they yank that spotlight off of you and onto themselves from day one.

Toms last blog post..Tales of the Sisters: Mad Cow Disease

Re: How Becoming A Father Will Make You A Better Man

Tyler — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:31:57 -0000

Trying to define and explain the love for a child is difficult at best. Maybe my choice of words weren't the best and they didn't exactly explain my point of view.

@Chuck: True love equals unconditional love in my book. Maybe my statement could have been worded a little differently and maybe I have learned this after becoming a father. It's not the same experience for everyone and it was something that changed me as a man once I became a father.

@Xbox: True and unconditional love for a child is very different than the love you have for your wife. I don't think my statement is "further from the truth" because that implies, for me, that my statement is incorrect. Your experience has been very different than mine and the things I have learned as a father are certainly going to be different than the things you learn.

I do appreciate the comments...whether you agree or disagree. That's what blogs are all about right?